Jun 6, 2012

The predesigned life!?

So ever wondered what is right and wrong? what is left and what in the name of god is right? What is good or bad? why can we not agree to the simple fact that a commited guy and a single girl can be best friends? Why can we not love someone twice or half our age? What is perfect? And who  exactly defined it for us? There might be traffic rules but who made the life rules, the relationship rules, the marriage rules, friendship rules and the gender rules for us?
Who exactly told us that you cannot do or can do things? And why do we have to have a routine? Why is it not once - just once, not okay not to judge. Why is not easy to NOT judge someone doing something they want to do? Why can it not be just happy or sad instead of good or bad then everything would be judged on the basis of - if it makes us happy or not. Right?
No rights or wrongs if you are happy. There is no question mark.
The problem is not the person who fell in love with his 10 year younger student. The problem is us. Its you and me who are not part of that person's experience and hence do not and cannot understand their rights and wrongs. For once why not stop judging yourself also? Why not carve a life that you want to live with yourself and others? Why not grow out of the prescribed norms of rights and wrongs? Why not do what makes you feel good, why not be with someone who completes you rather than someone who fits the profile of standard perfection?
Its weird how with growing age something that was right for us becomes wrong for someone younger. How we tend to rub the markings of imperfection from our face so that we inspire the younger generation to be good and right. But have you ever thought why can you not just own up to not the wrongs or rights but to the options that were put forth you and your decisions? It is never wrong or right as I said earlier. Right and wrong is an illusion which people around us plant in us and we plant in them. What is there are choices and what you can do is choose. You could choose a chocolate fantasy or the big banana, its your call. Its your life to live and design. There is right and left for oneself though. But the catch here is - What might be right for you could be left for me and what could be left for you might be right for me.
So, the point am trying to make here is how much is too much and how many is too many and if enough is ever enough? Will we ever know? In the same manner if right is good or bad and if bad is good or bad you will never know. So draw the line or define your decision by happy or sad/unsatisfied. That way you are always happy if you choose to be!
Design your own life. Don't buy it readymade from a store near you. Stich the wrong parts and use the wrong colours and beads. Maybe,  you might even like and be happy with the wrong design.
But again, who decided the rights and wrongs for you?