..GIVING & RECIEVING ..

Just a random thought ..
IS giving ... helping others .. putting others before you ..being selfless... a better feeling ... or just being on the other side ..asking for help ....being selfish in a normal amount (not mean but not being mahatma at the same time )... better feeling or better behaviour !!
I wont say i have always been a giver ..but yeah major times i have been the one helping others.
maybe that's because i have less personal problems ..or less boyfriend issues..and even lesser issues with girlfriends. Not that i don't have problems but not those killing or sleepless nights types of problems..!! And even if i have i never let trifles bring me down.
There have been times when i started believing that people turn to me only in time of need and stress.. and then they might just walk over me.. i have dreaded this , always..!!
Never has happened but i'll make sure it never will happen . I mean we should preach "help others..be selfless " but don't be a fool...be strong enough to draw a line because people are never as sweet/helpless as we assume them to be!! .. Don't do it for them ..rather support them to make them feel that they are strong enough to face their problems !! That it's their life and they know how to deal with it !! That is the best WE can do .. WE cannot spoon feed them !!
But as much as i have helped others i have equally recieved ... i have best of friends who have been with me through my tough times... i have love and support of my parents ..who are genuinely the most understanding people in the whole universe.., love and blessings of grandfather ... the patience and care of elder sister.. and some amazing forever friends and cousins who are there to listen to all my crap..!!
BUT as much as i say that recieving love fills you up and enlightens you ... Giving love and help ..and advices makes me feel much-much stronger , happier and satisfied...!!
It's like being able to complete a task that has been set in front of you and your reward is no noble prize or a lottery but that smile , ease , the tears of joy and that happiness on the face of the person you are helping !! .. That's not something valuable for many.. for me its priceless... something that has it's oown beauty and realism .. !!
Then as i start enjoying the fact that there is some good in the world .. and realise that being good to others is harmless... phuuuf... there is a blow..i slowly realise.. people are not even being grateful enough for the good you do and show their so called "attitude" and "arrogance"..!! I dont ask for personal glory but just some respect which i think not just me but every person who put others before them totally deserve..!!
It has happened many times that after being selfless i have got hurt .. but the truth is i dont care any more , I love to give ... i think it's one of the most essential characteristics that makes me believe that am still HUMAN in this world of opputrtunity grabbers..!! And therefore i demand nothing in return.. not like in a MOTHER TERESA wayy ... but yeaa.. in a BEING HUMAN wayy ... :)
"Why should we expect gratitude in return of small favours or the so called huge favours we do .. when out of the seven lepers Jesus cured ..only 1 stopped to say thank you to JESUS ...!!"
When i read this .. i realised that I am nobody to ask for it .. As much as i believe in living life your way ..and living to the fullest I equally believe in doing good and supporting others and making them feel good about themselves...!! :)
SO i guess For me.. GIVING Is far better then recieving .. or maybe they are equally Important and good.. because without recieving what would i have to give... and therefore like a cycle it goes on. THE MORE I GIVE THE MORE I RECIEVE ... or THE MORE I RECIEVE THE MORE I GIVE .. :)
guess they are both interdependent after all.
So as much as you are open to recieve be open to give... share it with all and one.. make that everlasting place for your good self on this blue earth .. where there is scarcity of joy and everyone craves for love and respect as much as they feast on it!!
have a great day :)